Opinions needed-please help

You should ABSOLUTELY go with your gut. Always, especially when someone creeps you out. When I first started working with ARPO they told me that if any one of them had a bad feeling about someone, even if they could not articulate what it was, that person was screened extremely closely, and almost always a good reason to deny came up once they started looking. Sometimes a potential adopter might not look great at the site, but loosen up at home and end up having a good situation for a particular animal. Sometimes people look great at the site, but upon investigation into vet records or a home visit, they fail the test. Let your rescue deal with this guy if he becomes a nuisance or abusive. They already have experience with him, and should have some kind of plan for when this kind of thing happens. When I had rescue puppies there was an arrogant woman who came in and declared that she wanted my puppy, proceeded to fill out the app, never looking at him again, while her little 2 or 3 year old terrorized everyone in range. I overheard her call someone on the phone and tell them what she was going to put on the app, even though it was a lie. I think it was about having gotten rid of a couple of animals before. After she left I voiced my concerns to the board member who was there, and she said she would pass it on. I later found out that I was not the only one who was concerned about her ability to be a good dog steward, and she was declined. She called them several times making threats about being discriminated against, but, since they are a private adoption agency, and can make their own rules, they can turn someone down for a good reason or for no reason. The animal's best interest is ALWAYS the most important thing, not worrying about pissing someone off. I was going to keep the rescue puppy myself before I would have handed him over to her. If you don't feel comfortable with this guy, do whatever you have to to make sure it doesn't happen. Some dogs just get too stressed when they go to adoption events. It makes their chances of being adopted a little worse since they are not on "display", but heck, she's not really selling herself anyway. You have worked so hard with her, and she is getting better. Maybe you could take her more casually to the Petco, just staying for a few minutes at a time, so she gets little bits of exposure rather than hours at a time. Have some of us come in and act like potential adopters. Someone perfect for Dayzee will probably show up when you least expect it.

Trust your instincts - something in not right with this couple otherwise you wouldn't feel the way that you do!

Maybe there was some reason the wife couldn't come out on Saturday (had to work or something). I would be inclined to go with my gut on it. If you let her go to them, you'll always worry and wonder if they're treating her right. This is a tough spot to be in!

Oh Dayzee me and mom love you SO much! i'm sorry i can't really help you but i would check the home out there is not hurm in doing that! you dont even have to go when your mom goes to check it out! but if i where you i would not trust them too! becuase maybe the only reason they want a dog is just to show the dog off when people come over i don't know! good luck!

Oh, I think I'd go with your gut on this one...you've put so much into acclimating Dayzee to the kindness of people...sending her to a home that is 'iffy' could set her back significantly...=} Peace, cuz Dayzee!

It is probably best to go with your gut. But if you are really doubting your decision and don't feel like you are giving this man a fair shake go do a "home inspection" as part of the process to determine if this is the best home for Dayzee. Set up a time when you and Pam can go to the home without Dayzee and check things out. Make sure that they understand that both of them have to be present at the time. Like someone said maybe the wife couldn't make it because she had to work or something. Maybe this guy just doesn't have very good social skills in public. That would be my suggestion if you were really worried that you are missing a good opportunity for Dayzee to find her forever home. On the other hand, my Mom personally is not inclinded to second guess her gut feeling about people. Most importantly you want to make sure you are doing the right thing for Dayzee and feel good about the end result. You don't want to go to bed every night wondering if she is Ok.

Like everyone else I would say go with your gut. Dayzee is counting on you to make the best decision on who would make good parents for her. If you have any doubts at all I would keep looking for someone that you feel comfortable with. Good Luck!!

Can you keep Dayzee????

First impression is everything. If he creeped you out, there's got to be a reason. If he didn't interact with Dayzee and was overly concerned with no one else getting Dayzee before he could, just seems odd. Picking you up to see what you weighed...Is there a way you or someone from the rescue could go on the home visit to check it out completely? If not, I say creepy dude, move along.

If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, it's a duck. Go with your gut. This is the reason why I couldn't give Yogi up when I signed on to "foster" him (all of two weeks, hee hee). I would be too worried about him going to the wrong home.

I'm pretty much on the same page as everyone else. I would follow your instincts. I just can't believe this cutie was on death row. If I were looking to adopt, this fact alone would make me want to adopt her -- poor thing. In fact, I wish I could afford and had the room for another dog. I applaud you for being such a strong advocate for Dayzee. I can understand about her not "showing" well at adoption events. I get nervous and suck during job interviews. But I managed to have that one interview where I was not nervous and got the job so I am sure Dayzee will have her moment too.