I know...but if they'd explain more we'd be more understanding.. Maybe their issues are really private and in that case, it's hard to help. It seems though that by the time they get to this point of posting their pet, they're done with them. Don't you think? When we give them advice, they don't seem real repective. You are right, but I don't want people to think this is a give-away site...

Agreed!!!

I agree with both comments. Unfortunately, some people view their pets as "disposable", i.e. if their pet no longer fits into their "lifestyle" then they figure it's time to find them a new home. Some situations are unavoidable, but if they truly considered their pet a loved part of their life, they would find a way to work things out. I also agree that we shouldn't make comments out of our frustration, but we all should offer alternatives to these pet parents. It's hard to know who will be receptive or not. All we can do is offer. Bev, tell your Mom to please keep up the great work that she does.

I do agree, Kirby, some seem to be done with them and could care less about our advice. I'm not trying to be holier than thou here because it frustrates me too! Sometimes, I think we look at these posts on a whole and stereotype everyone making this type of post. I think it's important to see each post as an individual situation. I wonder if we could set something up so all these posts would go to their own tab. That way, if we didn't want to deal with them, we wouldn't have to. It would also put them all together so people looking for a pet could click that tab and see what's available.

I think that would be a good idea. Having one of those posts come up when everyone else is being silly, kinda puts a damper on things and those are the times you just want to lash out at them.

Your points are well taken, and after reading this, I decided not to put a sarcastic comment on a recent post. My mom always said that if I could not say anything nice, I shouldn't say anything at all. I don't think I can go quite that far, because some of these posts BEG to be responded to in a negative way. However, I do think we, as a pet loving community, owe it to people to offer suggestions about training, crating, normal behavior, etc. Apparently we did make a difference in at least one case. The most frustrating thing for me is that many of these people just go out and get another animal, failing to realize that THEY are the problem, not the animal. And many people do seem to be done and have their minds made up by the time they post. Not having the information about their "situation" makes it difficult to help them. Most of the time I get the impression that the only "help" they want is for someone to take the poor beast off their hands.

I agree Beverly, and understand the point you are making but I also feel like Kirby is right too. Sometimes it just depends on the post. There are some that really seem despartate for help and others that just sound lazy and don't want to try, I mean really try, to make it work. Pets aren't easy. They never grow up. They are always dependant on you for care. It is like having a permanent 3 year old. I think those of us that feel so passionate about our pets just don't understand and can't fatham giving them up. That makes it hard for us to relate and I guess we get a little "hot under the collar".

Beverly,
I was just talking about this last night. We do need to not be so harsh on peeps. We should help out as much as we can. Not jump on them like a rabid dog.
Thanks for this post.
Peggy
ps, Bev you are beautiful!