Failed!!

Three words: Men are pigs. :) Now, there may be the exceptions, few and far between, but mostly they just stink. Quitting is hard. I was able to quit cold turkey when I got pregnant because they made me sick anyways and I don't plan on starting again. My mom has tried EVERYTHING under the sun, meds, gums, patches, you name it, she's done it. Nothing has worked. Three days later she's curled in the fetal position and moaning for nicotine. It's pathetic. Talk to your family doctor. He/she can work with you for a plan that works best for you. As for your sons... Depending on the age, boys become more independent of mommy at an earlier age. He may have been afraid to say something to you because he knew it would upset you. I had a father that wanted nothing to do with me and I say, "Well that's all right." but I didn't like to see my little brother go through it. Just remember its better for your boys for him to want to be in their lives than not. :) *hugs*

Hang in there, Maredeth. Trust that God has a plan for you and that,although things are kind of rough right now, you can rest in God's hands. Keep trying with the not smoking. I'm trying to quit myself and am getting there one day at a time.

Don't get me started about men!!!! I know for a fact that they don't get better with age either. They are self-centered and inconsiderate. I'm still looking for my Mr. Right though.....maybe he is around somewhere. In the meantime though I am having a wonderful life. Hang in there and know that we are "soul sisters". Keep on trying to quit the cigs. It's an addiction as bad as all the rest, but you can deal if you put your mind to it and take things just one day at a time.

"Never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever give up. Winston Churchill said that, I think."

Great line from a movie we watched last night called Martian Child. I reccomend it. And don't get down. God does have a plan. Trust in him, and trust your boys. I'm sure your son was afraid you'd feel exactly the way you are feeling and wanted to spare you that.

Keep at it. Just remember...if quitting was easy, everyone would be doing it.

Don't look at it as a failure. Look at it as getting off track and put your mind to getting back on track. Think about how long you survived without a cigarette. You survived-so you can do it again. A doctor told me the more times that you try to quit, you may succeed. Compare that to not trying to quit at all. I battle it myself. I also know that everytime I get upset, I feel I have a good excuse for getting off my track. That's the addiction of it. Also quitting can cause us to get more emotional over such life events, therefore we have our excuse. Then I ask myself the question, "Hey, do I want to live?" My husband has quit for over a week and could win the grouchiest man alive trophy, but I'm so proud of him. I admit I'm not doing well, but I have faith in God that it will happen. Keep trying.

Don't give up Maredeth! You can do it!! Don't think of it as a failure, just try to keep from having another one. Love yourself enough to go through the difficulty of not smoking. Just remember, everything is temporary. This includes your cravings, your withdrawal from the nicotine and the relief you feel from breaking down and having a smoke. God bless you dear.

Oh yes, and all men are pigs.

yes I agree that most men are pigs, but unfortunately I like bacon,ham, and the pork chop. So... I am proud that you are trying to quit!!! I myself have tried and failed to continue. But at least I have tried and I wil try again and maybe succeed then. You just give your self a hug from all of us that feel your pain. And laugh with all of us that want to kick some pig butt.

Oh and speaking from experience, grown adult children, a family of divorce. They will always love and respect you, because you love them. Even if it takes them till the're older to know it and show it.

I'm NOT going to tell you men are pigs...but they are somewhat blind when it comes to feelings! My comment to you is this; do NOT let one person control how YOU feel! Do NOT let him be in charge of YOU and your attitudes, how you love your children, etc. He can only affect you if you ALLOW it! Your boys are smarter than you give them credit for; they can see the truth. But you should see the truth, too, and be in control of your own self; set your mind about not smoking again, and go for it! Good Luck

(heehee, Alison, so do I.)

Please don't call yourself a failure. That only puts you into a deeper depression. You need to tell yourself that the best thing that that "man" ever did was leave. And smoking is hard to quit, and going cold turkey is risky. My father quit cold turkey after about 34 years of smoking by switching to Tic-Tacs and gum.